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A-telephone-phobia. 

A-telur-phobia.

A-telo-phobia. 

Have you ever feel like you're the worst person in this life? Worst in terms of your academic or work performances. Worst in terms of social behaviors. Worst in terms of speaking ability. Worst in terms of soft skills. Worst in terms of financial matter. Worst in terms of personal issues, you know, like being sloven and unkempt perhaps. You go like "Ah, I just can't help myself to do this thing better.", something like that. 

Or maybe it's like this. You think you are good enough, but suddenly that thought fades away when it happens that you meet someone way better than you. Comparisons are odious *yea, I know that* but let's be frank. Bullshit if you just keep cool over it (Pardon my French!). Won't you feel envious over someone that possesses something better than you do? *Of course you will!*

She's smarter and brighter than you. 

He speaks better than you. 

They are more moneyed than you. 

She's prettier and slimmer than you. (34-22-34, perghh~) 

He's driving BMW, and you're still "galloping" all around the city with your Kancil.

They got it all, but you...?

NOTHING!

Have you ever feel such way before? Oh, maybe it's not 100% the same, but yea, a little bit like that. You fall under a circumstance where you feel like you are just not comparable to them. No matter how great you feel about yourself, there is always something that makes you feel discontented with yourself. 

"I wish I could be like her. Like him. Like them."

Now it's time for me to introduce you the world of 'Atelephobia'-the term that I've written above. And for your information, atelophobia is...hold on, ignore my gibberish connotations above. I simply wrote up crap earlier, just to provoke your mind with all those fake rhetorical assumptions.

Atelophobia absolutely has nothing to do with telephone or telur (eggs) or telo (Could someone tell me what telo is?). It is simply a kind of disorder, a fear of being imperfect. A fear of not being good enough. This thing, if it goes out of control, can lead to severe problems afterwards, and worst of all, it causes depression, especially among teenagers. 

You're what? 

I CAN'T hear you~

You are...

An adult? So what. Depression knows no boundaries. Fear has no age limit. Once it strikes you, ouch! You've gotta find a way to escape from it. And back to our main topic... *where were we?*

Crystal. If I ask you to imagine a crystal, the first thing that will pop out in your mind would surely be something like this. A shiny glimmering thing which is darn beautiful. Perfect. But let me tell you something. Nothing is perfect in this world. Not even crystals.

Bismuth crystals ^^

And the thing is that, all those imperfections in crystals make them even more stronger. Even better in terms of their chemical resistance and all, which I believe you are not interested to know, not even the slightest bit. So let me speak this out in the simplest way; get rid of all those bad thoughts echoing in your mind, saying that you are just lacking in everything.

Learn how to be grateful. Learn how to cherish and treasure yourself. Learn how to say "Oh thanks, God for making me imperfect. At least it burns my desire even more to work harder, in making myself far better than this.".

Life will always have its ups and downs. There is no way we can escape from that. Life will knock us down, but all we have to do is to get up, and start everything again. The moment when life makes you feel underrated, and makes you feel inferior with yourself, that is when you need to shout it out loud, "Nothing is perfect. So do I. But I'll let you know that this imperfection won't let me feel down with myself.".

God has created us, in such a beautiful way that we are actually perfect in something, though it is not everything. All we have to do is, we've gotta discover what that "something" really is. As if we have something precious with us, we will cherish the thing very well, ain't it? Same goes with this little thing that has been granted to us, be proud of it. Be satisfied for what you have, and not for the one that you don't even have. 

"There is always something that I'm good at doing it."

There is always a part of us that likes to compare ourselves with others. In this life, I personally believe that, we could either be our own besties or our own enemies. It all depends on us after all. If you know how to chatter some sweet talks to yourself, trust me, you will never be alone in this life. You have the support that you need to keep on moving despite of all life obstacles that might come in your way in the future. The analogy is pretty simple. You know you are not so "hey-bro-whats-up" with yourself when your mind says "I should do this." while your heart frantically screams "No, you shouldn't do that!". If you are in a good relationship with your heart, mind and soul, they know how to synchronize themselves very well. And that is the moment when you don't have to bother thinking about the same thing over and over again, because you got the answer right away!

So guys, appreciate whoever we are. Let us value and accept ourselves. Stop comparing with others, because we are beautiful in our own way. If we change ourselves to be like others, would we remain the same beautiful thing again by that time? No.

We are indeed imperfect, accept the fact guys. No matter how hard we try to make ourselves perfect, we gotta keep our feet on the ground and say "That is just, too impossible.". But we could at least give a try on being nearly perfect, right?

"Nothing is perfect. But if we chase perfection, we can catch excellence."

Remember the fact about the crystal? Their imperfection makes them even more perfect. Same goes with us, human beings. Our imperfection makes us look better in front of others. Even if they look down on us, as long as we are contented with ourselves, that would be more than enough. As life, is all about us. And not about them.