I SAW A SHIP, WITH FRIENDS ON IT! BUT CAN I CHOOSE NOT TO SAIL ON IT?

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Friends.

Do we really need friends in this life? Well, I heard that, guys. You are saying YES, OF COURSE, and DEFINITELY! You are saying that we DO need friends, or else we will be forever alone. Isn't it?

But what if I say YES and NO, both at the same time? Friends are like credit cards. They make our life easier and more convenient if we possess them, but they are not a part of our must-have items in order to survive in this challenging world. If we have them, ya, consider it as a bonus. Something that we can make use of, and something that we can rely on, in times of difficulty. But let's say that we have none; does it mean it's the end of everything? Does it mean that we're gonna lose our blithe spirits? Does it mean that we're gonna lose our elated mood? 

No, because we still have the cash with us. The printed form of money. Something that we can still use despite of its inconvenience and that, actually refers to ourselves. Don't be sad when we don't have a lot of friends. Don't get frustrated when we have no friends to actually share our joyousness or maybe to share our dolefulness. Bear in our mind that, we are always our own best buddies. People might walk away from our lives, and leave us far behind, but we will never do that to ourselves, unless we start hating and turning ourselves into something that we call, self-enemies. 

It's better to be alone sometimes, rather than mingling with others that might not bring us the exultation and might not offer us the merriness of a relationship. In fact, friends might hurt us even more with their actions or words or anything. But I'm not saying that we should outcast ourselves from the society and alienate ourselves from other people. And I'm not saying that we can always succeed in this life without those people that we regard as friends. It's all about our own personalities - whether we can strive in this world alone, or not. 

In terms of study to be specific guys, learn how to be independent. Learn how to cope with the lessons on own own. The thing is that, when we rely on others too much to understand a particular thing, study apparently becomes an arduous thing or a difficult task for us to handle. Don't wait for your friends to solve your Calculus problems, and don't wait for your friends to give the answers for your Physics assignment. Don't wait for them to clarify your confusions regarding Chemistry theories and don't wait for them to pass their lectures notes to you to copy for every class that you purposely skip for simple lame excuses.

If we want something, we've gotta work for it. On our own. Independent. Friends are not always that helpful, and they won't always be there to assist us in every situation. Plus, they are humans too, just like us. They also have their own problems and their own things to be settled. But we, ourselves can always make an attempt to help overcoming every single snag that we hit in this life. It's just that, we need the willpower. We need the courage to act on our own. But how can we do it?

Simple.

Set in your mind : "Having or not having friends is not a big problem. I can always settle things on my own. I should be independent, so that I won't trouble other people so much in my life." In the case of studying, seek for the knowledge and the understanding directly from the lecturers, or the books, or Mr. Google perhaps. It is way easier compared to asking to our friends "What time you'll be free and available? If not today, tomorrow maybe? Or next week? Or next month?" Or maybe, you won't be able to understand it forever since he or she is just not so free and available, forever.

Triumph always begins with a TRY and ends with an...Guess what it is? An UMPH! Bingo. Try it on your own. Work for the things on your own. Put your own efforts in every single thing that you do. And trust me, you'll never be disappointed with the end result. Either your efforts turn out to be a victory or a defeat, I guarantee that you will always get the "UMPH" feeling, and you will always be contented with the outcomes. "Never mind, at least I put my utmost effort in it. That would be enough."

Is this article meant to encourage you guys to be alone? To do everything alone? To alienate yourself from the community and create the loneliness in your life? 

NO!

Remember, it's always about yourself. Your own option. You've gotta discover your own personality and your own need. Do I need friends in this life? YES? Then go ahead, make friends. Take an approach to beef up the number of your acquaintances, be it in the real life or through Twitter or Facebook or anything, as long as you have that someone to be called as "Friend". But if you're not slightly interested to make friends with others or you are actually wishing to befriend with everyone else but apparently they are not willing to create that bond of a friendship with you, no worries. Things can always be done perfectly though we don't have friends, dear. But mark my words, you gotta love yourself even more to do that. Why is it so? When things get harder in this life, and you just got no friends to aid you or to support you, that is when you gotta support yourself 200% more than before. You gotta keep that courage and determination such as "I Can Do This" at the peak and it must be continuous. Once you lose that fighting spirit, you'll start to lose hope on yourself and even worse, you'll start to hate yourself. You'll start to think that the things cannot be done and cannot be completed just because you don't have friends. 

But as I said before, nothing is impossible guys.When the going gets tough, the tough gets going.  It all depends on how we take the things - Is it easy or is it hard? If you think it is easy, everything's gonna be easy. And if you think it is hard, then it will become hard for real. But be realistic guys. Nothing is easy in this life, haha. Life will always knock us down, but all we have to do is to get up again. And restart it. Even though the thing is hard, set in your mind that, "I'm gonna make it easy." =)

Quote of The Day:

"LIFE IS LIKE A PUZZLE. THE MORE WE TRY TO SOLVE IT, THE MORE IT WILL PUZZLE US. SO LEAD A SIMPLE LIFE AND DON'T WORRY SO MUCH."